
Spring is approaching, even though the snow is still covering my yard. As my
Facebook profile status states:
"Angie Weid is excited about the return of the wonderful smell of earthworms crawling across the sidewalks in springtime." (wanna be my friend?)Aaah.....do you know the smell I'm talking about?
Spring is also a good time to evaluate your commitments.
I am beginning to look at where my time is being spent vs. what benefit am I getting from it.
Interesting I found this article this week about saying "No" to some things.
Let's look at a week:
(warning math lesson ahead)24 hours/day =
168 hours/week168 hours/week - 56 hours sleeping/week =
112 hours/week (8 hours/night sleeping)
112 hours/week - 40 hours working/week =
72 hours/week72 hours/week for everything else that is life.
WOW! I hope you are making the most of your time.
You can't do everything. You can try, though you will certainly burn out at some point likely resulting at screaming at your kids for leaving their boots on while running through the house like monkeys
(not like that really happens).
It is OK to say 'No.'
Here are a few tips on saying 'No:'
1. You deserve to take priority. Take time for yourself. Make sure you give yourself some free time to pamper yourself, just relax, or work on a hobby. Perhaps it is only 10-15 minutes, better than zero. In our home, my boys know that
"if mommy is not happy, no one is happy."2. Do not make excuses for 'no.' People respect honesty and hate hearing excuses. Treat yourself right and you can't help but treat others right too. If you need to use humor to lighten the 'no', do it!
3. Do not make commitments you're not prepared to keep. Saying 'no' is only a refusal of that particular request. Taking on a task that may overwelm you will only result in added stress in your life and resentment toward the commitment. Much better for you to say 'no.'
4. Remember you don't have to give a reason. We don't give reasons when we say 'yes' so why should we have to give a reason for saying 'no.' A simple 'I appreciate you asking, but no thanks' will often do the trick. Kick your guilt to the curb!
5. Set limits. If you are only available to help for 4 hours on Saturday, tell them that and stick to your limits. Keep in mind to be firm but polite. You need to recognize how much you can reasonably do.
6. Delegate. If nothing else works or you begin to feel a bit a stress building, remember to ask for help. Perhaps delegate some of your commitments to others. Delegation is the key to being a good leader. Break up things among family members, friends, organizations, or co-workers. Allow others to help you.
I guess if all else fails next time someone asks you to do something you really don't want to do, and feel like you can't come up with something quickly, just tell them
"Oh, I'd love to, but Angie said No." I'll take the heat for you.
What did you say 'No' to?