Thursday, November 01, 2007

The Good, The Bad and The Ugly


The Good = me
The Bad = my ex-husband
The Ugly = Judicial system




I had to go to court yesterday, because The Bad filed me in Contempt of Court for me taking my boys to a Cub Scout Pack meeting and soccer games during their father's parenting time. Note: He refused to take the boys to these activities, so I did.

I was not found in Contempt. A positive outcome.

I did have to give up my only weekend with my boys this month to The Bad for "make-up parenting time." Only for The Bad to cancel one of his weekends for a vacation.

WHAT?!
First The Bad wants "make up" time, then cancels one of his own weekends?? In the end, my boys and I will have a weekend together. Another positive.

The Ugly cannot do anything when a self centered parent treats his children as possessions."It's my parenting time and I want the boys here," is what I hear very often from The Bad. No regard for what the boys want. Jacob wants to play soccer, The Bad says he can't because it takes away from his parenting time. Isn't going to soccer games part of parenting time?

The Ugly has told The Bad he must take the boys to their activities. This releases me from being responsible for activities during The Bad's weekends. Also, challenges The Bad to step it up and be a parent and participate. Both positives.

Our divorce should not effect the boys activities.
I am passionate about my boys. I want the best for them.
Spending Saturdays at soccerfields and weeknights in cubscout activites are not my first choices for myself of things to do. Though I would NOT trade them for the world because I love and support Matthew and Jacob.

It is sad to hear the comments my boys make about their father.
I just listen, hug them and tell them I love them.
I am an amazing mother that is willing to push The Ugly to the point of contempt to defend what is good and right.

Gonna jump off my soapbox now.
No school today, so the boys and I are going to have some fun.
And yeah ... soccer practice tonight.

What have you stood up to defend?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

What a NIMROD!

Love the analogy: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. How great would it be if you could settle things up Clint Eastwood style?

"Make-up parenting time" goes right along with "babysitting" your own kids. I think I need some "make-up time for not showing up to pick up the kids time."

Lucky New Life said...

Great read. What a jerk! Sorry you're having to go through that. I'm in a similar boat sans kids. But, it's amazing what someone (my ugly) can use as a weapon in order to stir things up. Good Luck!

JYankee said...

Of course I would be defending the good..which is you! Yeah..really sorry you have to go through that...men are really turds sometimes....

Anonymous said...

Angie,
You are such a better person without Nimrod, even if you have to deal with this bs. He truly sucked the life out of you in that relationship, and I am proud to see you as a strong women. The Good always prevails!! You are beyond good, you are phenomemal!!!
-Cheryl

Anonymous said...

PHENOMENAL! Angie you are PHENOMENAL!! (geez, my spelling sucks)

Sandy of Sandy's Stuff for Women said...

I alienated some family members when I stood up for the ex-wife of a family member. But it was the right thing to do. Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean they deserve your loyalty.